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Love Lessons From Hurricane Sandy

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Love Lessons From Hurricane Sandy [EXPERT]
How did you weather the storm?
Relying on friends and neighbors during a natural disaster can teach you a lot about love.

Sandy rolled through the northeast with a thunderous wind, plenty of rain and destruction. The storm transformed a city that never sleeps to one with a slow-paced walk.

Since Sandy rolled in last week, I haven't had electricity or cell phone service in my current apartment, but was blessed to have friends with electricity. I am in a spacious one bedroom on the 37th floor overlooking the entire city. I have hot water, food, eight friends and support during this time and all of that feels fantastic.

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It got me thinking about how this Frankenstorm has given us permission to reach out and ask for help, which for most of us is one of the hardest things to do. In my opinion, asking for help has everything to do with exchanging love: allowing yourself to receive it and allowing another to give it. It seems like technology and the belief that doing it all on our own "proves something" and has really prevented so many of us from sharing and expressing love!

What happened to asking for sugar from the neighbor or having an open-door policy so friends could just drop by whenever? While technology has increased convenience and abundance,  it has taken away the one-on-one connection factor that most of us crave unknowingly on a very deep level.

I work from home and most days I am by myself. It is amazing how much I crave human interaction. I miss it so much that most days I make my way to the local coffee shop just so I am surrounded by humans. Somehow, the presence of other people is comforting, even though I don't know anyone.

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All of us have this in some form and it can be recognized as feeling anxiety, depression, stress, tension or by throwing out your back. What is missing is the human touch, a hug, a helping hand, a conversation and letting people in to be a part of our world, even if for a moment.

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