Every year around this time I have 8 days that are a religious time for me. So, for the past week I have been fasting, going to temple, reflecting, thinking back over the last year and asking for forgiveness from those that I have hurt in any way through speech, action, or thoughts. As a way to ask for forgiveness, we say Micchami Dukkadam.
Literally how it is spelled is how it is said.
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To you, I would like to say the same. In every single love note weekly to you, I try to impart my teaching my understanding, and if in anyway it has affected you negatively, I would like to say Micchami Dukkadam.
My love lesson for ya:
My best stuff comes out when I am speaking with clients and this week was no exception. I am so invested in them feeling loved, so they can attract in love, that something divine flows through me. Let’s call my client Nancy. She was telling me about some health issues she has been having, and how it has been a chronic struggle for her since she was a little girl. She then quickly went into how alone it can feel to have a disease, and how there is no one that can really help you with it. It is simply something you have to suffer on your own, and figure out. Of course, doctors are helping her, but sometimes they can’t even totally help.
I asked her if she goes to the doctors by herself, and she emphatically said, “YES, I don’t even want anyone to come with me.” I then asked her why she does that and said said that “They can’t do anything, so what’s the point?”
I said, “There is a point!”
There are people, specifically your mom and dad, as well as close friends that want to be there for you, love you and support you. Everytime you leave them out of the process of being with you in those moments, the more alone you will feel. She explained that she has had this forever, so she didn't understand why they would come with her every single time. My suggestion was that it may not be every single time, but most of the time.
Then I asked her a question that is going to feel a bit morbid, but an extremely important question to ask of yourself:
If you were dying, and you knew it, would you want to be surrounded by people you love and adore, or be by yourself?
Now death is an extremely alone experience, just like having a disease, and honestly, we can feel death alone being single or not having a relationship that serves us. Nancy replied “Why would I want to make others unhappy by watching me die? I would rather be alone and die.”
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I then realized that THAT is the problem. Nancy has been so concerned with burdening others that she wasn’t letting people who WANT TO love and support her in.
Can they take away your pain? No, but it absolutely makes the experience much more loving, and in some cases LETTING IN that love can and has overridden pain for so many people. It is simply a choice to let people in.