When Parents Get Divorced...

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When Parents Get Divorced...
How divorce affects the bonds parents have with their kids

So, the attachment bond is a proven, biological need and is the basis of emotional stability. It is created during infancy, it is possible to nurture and preserve the attachment bond, even through divorce. It takes education and committed, conscious and intentional parenting by emotionally healthy parents.

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Go to www.earlymomentsmatter.org to learn about attachment and to get an award-winning toolkit that introduces ways in which parents and caregivers can help their children build secure attachments.

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