3 Ways Music Can Set The Mood

By Kate Richlin-Zack. Posted on Nov 30th 2012.

The perfect soundtrack can rev up your libido and set a sexy mood!

I always said if I were going to be a stripper, my soundtrack for the main stage would include Nine Inch Nails, Metallica, and a little AC/DC. Although I can't explain why the grungy guitar riffs and pounding baselines put me in the mood for a strip tease, a recent study might; apparently there is a link between sexual arousal and music. Because it helps us connect with our sexuality and revs up our libido, it can actually play a greater role in sexual arousal than physical touch.

Here are a few tips for using music to set the mood:

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1. Carefully select your soundtrack. Admit it, there are songs that make you cry. Pretty much anything by Josh Grobin has me balling on the floor in the fetal position. There are songs that get you pumped up. I'm not even ashamed to admit the theme from Rocky actually makes me want to do push ups and run laps. Keep this in mind when choosing your soundtrack for a romantic evening.

Want to keep things smooth and sexy? Try Portishead, Morcheeba, and Hooverphonic. Want to rev things up for a 50 Shades of Grey inspired evening? Try a more industrial sound like Nine Inch Nails, Puscifer, and A Perfect Circle. Since the objective is to seduce your partner, make sure you know your audience.

2. Control the volume. Music should be an accompanying soundtrack, not the featured event. You don't want to be whispering sweet nothings in your partner's ear and have him respond, "umm ... what did you say?" Guaranteed mood killer.

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3. Use "repeat". Think awkward silence in a conversation is uncomfortable? It's even worse when the music stops and everything comes to a premature screeching halt. Make sure you've got at least an hour's worth of music and be sure it's on "repeat."

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