Why Respecting Boundaries Is Crucial, Part 4

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Why Respecting Boundaries Is Crucial, Part 4
Recognizing the value of you and your body by taking control of your choices and relationships


Food, Chemical or Alcohol Abuse. Are you using food, drugs or alcohol to cope with your emotions? When we do not have other skills to help us cope with pain we will often turn to substances and food. These are things that give us instant gratification, but no long term results. It will help you to feel better in the moment, yet the problem at the bottom of it will still be there. Avoiding may feel like it helps in the short term, but you then have no chance to find out how valuable you are and the cycle will continue until you make a change.


We all need to feel in control, it gives us a sense of safety and consistency. True control comes from making choices in your life that are based on full awareness of yourself and your goals. It can be hard to make a change to set limits and boundaries, especially if it is all you have ever known.


All of the boundaries in these articles are ones that can be adjusted and changed as you see fit. If you realize that you fall into one or more of these categories you will then need to figure out how or why you do this. That will be painful, but will lead you to the possibility of releasing some of that pain that you live with every day. Be willing to risk discomfort and change so that you can be the one in control of your world and your life.
 

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