Is Online Dating The Only Way To Find Love?

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Is Online Dating The Only Way To Find Love? [EXPERT]
Plus, where to find potential mates in the real world.

My suspicion has become that it is scary to put yourself out there with a person that is standing right in front of you. It is much easier to have the barrier of the computer to ease the introduction.

If you are rejected or ignored by a computer, it feels less personal. When you risk yourself with someone in person, he can see your discomfort and you can't edit your response.

I worry that dating sites take advantage of our fears. They seem to be selling hope, which is in small supply for many single people.

It can be scary to see yourself getting older or having just come out of a long-term relationship and looking at the new "dating scene." It can seem like a war zone.

So dating sites charge you to take a chance on finding love, something that most of us desperately want. Then the fearful and lonely flock to these sites hoping that love is in their romantic futures. One of the reasons I've been told people use these sites is that there is a much wider pool of potential partners, so there are better odds. How A Kiss Can Save Your Relationship

So why is it that so many people go on date after date and never find someone they connect with? I see the frustration on their faces and hear it in their voices.

They talk about having to "take a break" from dating sites because it gets tiring. These odds don't seem to be working out in the favor of the single searcher.

My theory of finding the right person is one that people tell me is cliché. But cliché's are born from truths. To find  the right person, spend some time figuring out who you are and what you want in life.

Look at the people you have dated in the past and put their traits into two piles: Traits you'd like to see again and ones you'd like to avoid forever. Then go out and really live your life. Do things you enjoy, spend time with friends and family. Be out in the world.

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