The Top 3 Ways to Rebuild Intimacy


The Top 3 Ways to Rebuild Intimacy
Sometimes we get distracted by life and drift apart, here's how to keep swimming together

3. No alone time. When was the last time you were alone and had an experience that was unique to just the two of you? Socializing with mutual friends is nice, but we all need to refresh our relationships by being alone together. When other people are around, like friends, family or children they act as a buffer. It’s as if you have a safety net between you so that you don’t have to focus on each other.

Date nights may feel forced, but they are sometimes the best way to prioritize that alone time. Do something a little different each date night – stargazing, hiking, trying different restaurants – new and different experiences are the best to create unique moments for the two of you. You fell in love in the first place for a reason. Even if you are out of practice you will be at ease soon enough.

This is your life and your relationship. You can keep it romantic and intimate for a lifetime so long as you attend to it consistently and allow yourselves to be true partners regardless of the bumps and bruises of life.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Kate Evans


In my practice I help women rediscover their inner strength and overcome the fears and sadness that can come with forgetting to care for youself in addition to everyone else.

I'm looking forward to helping you. Give me a call for a free 30-minute phone consultation.

Location: St Charles, IL
Credentials: LCPC
Specialties: Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Empowering Women, Sexuality
Other Articles/News by Kate Evans:

Three Tips To Help You Manage Stress And Breathe Easier


Do you constantly feel overwhelmed? Does it feel like you're never on top of your to-do list? Mental health counselor and therapist Kate Evans has some good news: you're not alone! People all around us struggle with balancing everything — even the ones who seem like they have it all together. So how can you get a better handle on everything ... Read more

Self-Love: Can A Woman Find Herself After 50?


Do you put the needs of your kids and significant other before your own? Are you worried that you're incapable of loving yourself? If so, help is on the way. In this video, counselor and YourTango Expert Kate Evans says that it's a common issue among older women. "There are so many women who dedicate themselves to their family, to their ... Read more

Why Do I Feel Obligated To Have Sex With My Husband?


Do you go through the motions when you have sex? Is your spouse starting to resent you for it? If so, help is on the way. In this video, therapist and YourTango Expert Kate Evans explains what happens when sex with your partner starts to feel more like something on your daily to-do list than an intimate experience. "The truth is that the demands of ... Read more

See More


Sign up for our daily email and get the stories everyone is talking about.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.