Increase Your Strength By Reducing Your Vulnerabilities


Increase Your Strength By Reducing Your Vulnerabilities
Caring for your body so that your mind will follow

At times we can feel as though our emotional reactions take control of us and we have no choice but to follow in their destructive path. The truth is that everyone has the ability to be in control during difficult times and that it takes work to get there. Part of that work is reducing your vulnerabilities so that you can feel stronger and more able to face life.

When we don’t care for ourselves physically we leave ourselves vulnerable to emotional triggers. Take a look at these areas and try to think about an area you can improve so that you are better equipped to meet the demands of your life.


Eat balanced, regular meals. This is a tall order for many people in this time of fast food, long work hours and multiple time consuming obligations. Your body is a machine. Would you expect your car to operate at its best with bad fuel or no fuel? No. So think of your body the same way. Maybe you can’t change your eating habits every day this week, but could you do it 4 days out of the week? Do you need to start with one day or one meal and work your way up to more? Do you need to add a good food like a vegetable or a fruit before you can think about taking away your daily donut?

Find a solution that makes sense to you. You can take control of your life and insist upon prioritizing yourself through setting aside time for good food.

Get exercise of some sort. This does not mean you have to start going to the gym every day. Always keep in mind that just because your best friend works out every day does not mean that is the plan that works for you.

Set yourself up for success by knowing yourself – do you do best in the morning, afternoon or evening? How long can you stay focused? Do you need to rotate your exercise so as not to get bored? Are there forms of exercise that you despise and therefore will never follow through on them? Can you think outside the box for creative ways to get movement into your day? Do not set yourself up for failure before you even begin.

Be realistic and set small goals. You can always increase once your meet a goal or you become comfortable with your current plan.

Get the right amount of sleep for you. If you know that you are someone who operates best with seven and a half hours of sleep, then make that happen. It may mean that you have to sacrifice something, because we each have to decide what is most important to us. If getting the right amount of sleep makes it so that you can function better in your life, it needs to be prioritized.

Keep in mind that different people’s bodies work differently and therefore the amount of sleep one person needs may be different from another. Listen to your body and try not to make it fit into someone else’s mold.

Take your prescribed medications. If you have prescriptions the assumption is that there is something in your body or mind that needs a little help. Sometimes we get frustrated with having to take meds and choose to stop taking them either permanently or temporarily to feel in control of them. The problem is that there are often consequences that come with stopping medications without a plan which can even be life threatening.

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Kate Evans


In my practice I help women rediscover their inner strength and overcome the fears and sadness that can come with forgetting to care for youself in addition to everyone else.

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Location: St Charles, IL
Credentials: LCPC
Specialties: Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Empowering Women, Sexuality
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