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What Can Help You Cope With Stress

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Tips on how to face the everyday stressors of life.

Unplug. Turn off the TV, iPod, phone, computer, etc., once in a while. Technology keeps us going at a frantic pace, unplugging gives your mind a break. Everyone in your life will be okay if they cannot contact you for a short period of time and you will feel relief because for that time you know that no one will make any demands of you. When you return to your technology you can handle anything that happened during that time in a more calm and centered way because that is how you will be feeling.

Laugh. Humor is a healer. Smile, belly laugh or giggle, especially when you feel the opposite, to affect change in yourself. We get so caught up in the negative things in life and we forget about the good things that make us smile. Often it's the smallest stuff that brings that smile to your face, but it is worth so much more. Laughing All The Way Through Their First Date

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Know yourself. Know what it is that you struggle with. Be realistic about what triggers you have so that your awareness can prepare and protect you. When you try to fool yourself into believing that you will not be triggered by something, all you are doing is making it so that your reaction will be much worse. When you prepare yourself by being realistic, (not worrying) you can feel as though you are the one in control, not fate.

Try one of these things the next time stress tries to take over your life. If it doesn't fully do the trick, move onto the next. If you find one thing works better than other things, then keep on doing that one.

The idea is to find out what works best for you when under stress, not what works for other people. That can take a little trial and error, but, in the end, putting a little work into finding the right tools for you will leave you feeling more calm, in control, and ready to face the world with all that it has to give you.

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