What Can Help You Cope With Stress

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Tips on how to face the everyday stressors of life.

Choose instead of reacting. When you take a step back and make a clear conscious choice about something, it can help to feel like you are in control rather than reacting to a crisis and being driven by emotion. While our emotional reactions are important and do need to be validated, you can also choose to be in control of how you handle the emotion. 16 Essential First-Date Tips

If you are angry you do not have to yell at the person, you can choose to be calm so that they can hear what you have to say. If you are scared you do not have to run away from a situation, you can choose to find a way to face it or gently remove yourself if needed.

Prioritize. If everything on your "to do" list has the same level of importance then nothing will ever get finished. Regardless of how long your list is, take the 6 top things that absolutely have to get done today, prioritize them and put them at the top of the list.

Everything else will still be there waiting to be done the next day and you may even find that things fall off the list because someone else takes care of them or — they weren't that important in the first place. 4 Questions to Ask Yourself About Stress & Anxiety

Say 'no' now and then. You cannot do everything, there just isn't enough time or energy. When you set a limit you are saying that you are important and need a break, which will make you more capable of fully taking care of the things you say ‘yes’ to. When you get in the habit of saying no, you will find yourself relaxing and feeling in greater control of your life.

Cheerlead. Say something positive to yourself when you wake up in the morning and before you fall asleep at night. The power of words makes it so that a repeated message will begin to be truth to you after a while. If you hear something negative about yourself often enough you will begin to believe it, so why not try doing the opposite and say something positive and supportive?

Focus. Do one thing at a time and do not allow yourself to be distracted into starting something else before you finish the first thing. Life can seem like it's spinning out of control when you feel like you never accomplish anything. By focusing, you can be assured that at least one thing will be taken care of and you can finally take something off your list. Why Writing A Memoir Will Change Your Life

Journal. Write out your thoughts on a regular basis. They don't have to make sense; it will just help to get them out of your brain and onto paper. Just like how talking things out with a friend can relieve some of the pressure in your head. Writing things out can sometimes let you move forward onto another subject because the thoughts are now in a safe place where they won't get lost, the way we sometimes feel things in our heads will.

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