Stress is a normal and expected part of our lives, but it's not a part we always know how to deal with. We learn how to handle stressful situations by watching our parents and peers as we grow up. If you didn't have positive coping modeled for you, it may make it harder to handle even everyday stressors.
Because it is a normal part of life, there are no skills to make stress never happen, but we can all benefit from having a plan to face it to help feel on top of the things that we can control. These skills will give you ideas as to how you can make small changes in your life that will help to make stress more manageable. 3 Ways To Avoid Unwanted Stress
Reduce your vulnerabilities. Eat balanced, regular meals; get exercise of some sort; get the right amount of sleep for you; take your prescribed medications; avoid unhealthy coping like alcohol and drugs, and give yourself down time or mental health breaks whenever you can. Doing all of this will leave you less vulnerable to the toll that stress can take on a person by caring for the body that must hold the weight of stressful times.
Prepare rather than worry. You can't change the past or control the future so try to just deal with what is on your plate now and be realistic about what the outcomes will be. Preparation is when you take a realistic look at what is in your control and you create a plan of action.
Worry is when you take preparation to an extreme and begin trying to find every possible outcome that you can have a plan for. You never allow yourself to recognize that there are times when we do not have the ability to control everything and therefore it cannot be prepared for. How To Stop Worrying About Your Relationship
Use your support system. Talk to others instead of keeping everything inside. Talking to someone you trust can help to show you alternatives, validate your feelings, and take some of the pressure off your shoulders. Sometimes just saying things out loud to another person can help you to understand yourself better.
The people in your support system want to be able to help, even if it is just to listen. However, if there is something you can ask of them to help with, do so. You do not have to be a one man army. Mindfulness: The Art of Cultivating Resilience
Breathe. Breathing slowly and deeply when you are tense helps to oxygenate your body, release tensions from your muscles, and clear your mind. There are many techniques to relaxation breathing. The most simple is a nice deep breath that fills your entire lungs and then is expelled fully — feel free to make noise when you breathe like this.
Other techniques are to count backwards from 100 to the rhythm of your breathing; breathe in to a count of 4, hold for a count of 4, breathe out to a count of 4, hold again for a count of 4 and repeat; or even just paying attention to the fact that you are breathing, the inhalation and the exhalation, and the rise and fall of your chest as the air flows through your lungs.