The whole process of learning is also a very positive and soothing distraction. When your brain rarely shuts down and chatters 24/7 about your ex, the few hours spent worrying about other things are really so very precious and addictive.
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The more you learn, the more you see results, the more you cultivate self-love and the less you care about your ex.
That's the most productive and effective way of "getting over" an ex, hands down.
So what skills can you learn? There is a lot you can do depending on your passion, interests, aspirations, ambitions, etc...
In my case, I'm learning the rope of utilizing the incredible and infinite power of the internet to disseminate my message of hope and redemption in time of severe personal crisis like you're going through to as many people as possible. This is my calling now. And I can be really absorbed in this newly found passion to the extent that nothing else seem to matter.
If you can be at that stage, you are practically "over" your ex and seducing him/her back is only a matter of time.
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Reappear In Their Life With Fanfare
When you have rebounded from your self-esteem crash and are ready to take on the world, you can make you red-carpet entrance to your ex's life again. And you won't even have to force your way because most likely he'll invite you in with all doors open. So now you can sashay in with fanfare and all eyes on you.
They'll find you mesmerizing again. You seem not just okay but exceedingly content after the breakup. What gives? Now they feel like they have less power than they thought they had. Now they want to see you more thanks to the magnetism you radiate. You have transformed yourself into a desirable person who seems to have it all -and a bunch of admirers so they have to fight to get your attention.
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And you will give them attention, not too much or too little, but just enough for them to yearn for more with the expectation they will indeed get more the next time(s) you're together.