Don't Soothe Your Broken Heart With Chocolate, Get A Hot New Date

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Love, Heartbreak

You didn't see it coming but he dumped you, how do you move on with a big open wound in your heart?

One of my very first clients is Anita. Five years ago she came to me with a broken heart. Her fiancé had just left her after talking about their near future plans to her and her parents just a few days previously. She didn't see it coming.

But it happened and she was shattered to pieces.

The pain was unbearable.

She had lost another fiancé to an accident a few years before. This is another death of her loved one to her, only worse.

I told her to start dating again, although she was no where near ready for that. She did it anyway. 

She met Brad. He was so into her she pursued him hard. She saw him a few times even slept with him at some point but she told me she couldn't get over her ex. She had to tell him that she was not over her ex.

She did. Then I didn't hear from her for a while only one day in October 2012 she was asking if I could squeeze her in cause she was freaking out: her ex was engaged to his new girlfriend!

She was broken to pieces again.

I said yes but didn't hear from her till a week later. She said: "Hi Katarina, Thank you for responding. I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I was pretty much in crisis the night I found out about Jeff being engaged but I've had some time to get a hold of myself and deal with it. I've learned a lot these past few years so my recovery time is shorter and I feel better. It still hurts a lot but its been a catalyst for me to totally move on this time. There's someone so much better for me and that's where my focus is. I hope all is well in your life. Love, Anita"

I never heard from her again until I found out through facebook she was engaged in November last year. And it was to ... Brad!

And just a few weeks ago, in November this year they got married.

I was floored. I was the very first person who knew about their dating history and I was the one who encouraged her to see him even when she didn't really want to.

Brad was the first guy she ever dated after the breakup. Usually I don't take that kind of relationship very seriously cause it was a rebound relationship.

But for some reason it worked for them. He was smitten from the get-go and didn't relent knowing she was still hurting over her breakup.

What is the lesson here?

Moving on even though your heart is far from ready is the way to go. What you are feeling at the moment feels very real for you but it's just a feeling and feelings change. You just have to believe it that this one, too, shall pass ...

She didn't expect she would marry the next guy after her ex fiancé but that is what happened. It's pretty much accurate what this saying says: to get over someone, get under someone else.

They had 5 years to practice though. I surely hope she had also been dating other guys along (or after) Brad and had been through her transitional relationships.

So any of you who has been dumped, don't sit around mourning. Yes, you need to heal for sure and dating others when you are hurting isn't easy cause it actually reminds you what you're missing but it helps you move on ... once you find the right man (men) you like.

When I broke up from my ex, I forced myself to date even when I was miserable most of the time. In time I enjoyed it more, especially when I found myself attracted to some of the guys. I went through my transitional "non-relationships" with a few EUM till I was ready to jump in with both feet with my boyfriend.

It took me four years to be ready to be in a committed relationship again.

If you're going through a tough breakup, don't despair. My method has helped TONS of women to either move on (like Anita) to a greener pasture or get their exes back. It has also given birth to eight engagements and two marriages the past year, not including Anita's.

My hit program Journey Inward will help you move on and in the process get your ex back. It is the Ultimate Way to getting your ex back. And some of the ladies who have been attracting their exes back will be in my November's class of the Feminine Goddess Enlightened Relationship monthly membership divulging how they did it using my method.

You surely don't want to miss this call! There will be eight such women in the class and they will give you the morale support you need as well as share their secrets on how they pulled this off.


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