To him, it can induce his insecurities a little bit. He will wonder what you'll do and with whom and which new people you'll meet. You introduce a new challenge into the relationship, a new variable into the equation. That puts him on the edge, and he's afraid of falling off so his first instinct will be to grasp you tighter.
Be gracious and excited about telling your experience. The thrill will give you new blood, and he will notice the shifted vibe in you. And as I always say, the change in your relationship should start with the shifting of your energy. Your vibration needs to be raised first.
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6. Move on. If you have done all those steps and he's still not stepping up, then girl, you really deserve a better man, don't you think? A woman like you shouldn't have a problem finding the right guy who will reciprocate everything you have to offer. Don't sell yourself short.
Next time, learn to love unconditionally and without expectations, yet only allow yourself to fall in love and be in love with a man who seeks, courts and claims you. Period. It's about you as well as the right choice of men.
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I know your struggle, and I wrote an ebook on the very subject. So far I have received very warm response from a lot of women in your predicament. You really don't have to try too hard.