Relationship obligations can be too much for a person unless he/she is ready for it. And the potential for the emotional mess is so high it can really dampen our enthusiasm about being with him/her on a deeper level. That's the story behind emotional unavailability with many people. It's pure unreadiness. Keep reading ...
If you have done the self-analyzing, and you are pretty sure that a relationship is what you truly desire, there are steps you can take to have the tables reversed. Nudge your relationship forward by being more secure. A lot of women go around the commitment issue with their men the wrong way. They nag, give ultimatums or throw fits. That's not going to make him want to commit more. In fact, it has the exact opposite effect.
My method is always back to self-nourishment. Self-fulfillment is the answer to all of your relationship issues. Are you a happy person with healthy confidence and boundaries? Then you should be okay. Many men are looking for and want to adore women like that. A woman like that has tons of options because she is a rare commodity.
If you have been nagging and doing so many relationship mistakes, you still can fix that by following this advice. But here are some remedial steps you can start taking now to avoid getting stuck in a relationship that isn't going anywhere:
1. Back off. Collect yourself, your thoughts, your aspirations, dreams, fears and triggers. Go on a hike or a walk and meditate on them. Have you been too clingy and needy as of late? Does it stain the closeness you once had? Pulling away and just focusing on fulfilling your own needs, at this point, is the first start. (Sign up for this one -of-a-kind Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Workshop to learn more this secret to a unlocking a man's intense desire for you!)
2. Don't use a relationship as security. Is your identity too much enmeshed in this relationship or the idea of being his girlfriend? If yes, then you have self-esteem issues. You don't want a relationship as much as you want the security of a relationship. The more you want security, the less likely you'll get it. Security only takes place when you fully embrace the insecurity inherent in every aspect of life, and that especially includes love.