I've been in your shoes: Many sleepless nights, desperate dreams, days spent crying and curling in bed wondering how you're going to survive with a heart so devastatingly crushed, so excruciatingly pained. The fear. The saltiness of extreme sadness like nothing else you ever imagined or experienced in your life before. The loneliness.
I got it. I have been to hell and back a few dozen times the last four years (only the last year or so I was able to truly move on). I know how you're feeling exactly, every minute of it. The struggle, the maddening conflicting strong currents of emotions, the obsession, the depression — I've been through it all. (Here are the real reasons he's pulling away and the kind of woman he'll stick around for)
If you have just broken up with your lover, don't waste as much time as I did suffering terribly. Get yourself together to hop on the self-growth journey that will make you a magnet to great lovers/relationship ... and your ex! You could master the skills to cope with this agony while at the same time pave the way for him/her to go back to you sooner — if you still want it! (Often times when you have become a better person and you have grown larger than the relationship itself, you know what you deserve and won't settle to a relationship that didn't serve you).
My mistake was I clung and strategized in my mind how to get him back all the time. The obsession was so consuming, and I wasted so much time and energy not focusing on things that really mattered: me. I was so tired of grieving that I had no choice but to move on. And now that I have, I lost the desire to get back with my ex, and I am in the most fulfilling relationship of my life. All is the result of me moving on. Keep reading ...
More breakup advice from YourTango:
- How to Move on After a Break Up
- 9 Love Lessons I Learned From My Divorce
- How Do I Know I'm Ready To Start Dating After A Divorce?
In fact, I have helped many of my clients and readers to get their exes back or have their guys step up to the plate and claim them when they practice my tools and use my principles of leaning back and moving on. You can read their stories and how they exactly do it here.