How do you know if a guy is truly into you? Generally speaking, when a man is into a woman, it doesn't take much for her to feel that. He will show efforts, initiate, take you out, love to touch, hug, kiss and make out with you, make you feel special, call/text, compliment you, etc. If you have to ask then it's either he's giving you conflicting messages or he's not. But why would a man give conflicting messages? Here are some of the reasons:
1. He likes you but he's not looking for relationship for whatever reasons and he doesn't want to lead you on so he has to blow hot and cold (this is one of the reasons why men pull away and here's how to keep them attracted).
2. He likes you enough to want to explore things with you, yet he's discouraged or scared by your over enthusiasm or (perceived) clinginess so he needs to back off every now and then to dampen your eagerness.
3. He's just playing the field and he's probably in a relationship of some kind with another woman already!
4. He loves the sex and he really doesn't want anything more than a casual relationship in which sex is the center...in other words you are a just f*ckbuddy or a booty call....ouch! (do you know the secret of talking dirty that makes him addicted to you and makes him see you as a sex goddess?)
5. He just wants to be friend with benefits with you. He loves and values the friendship and the sex is great but he doesn't have the emotional capacity to make it more serious than that. Or simply, he's just not up for the obligations, expectations and responsibility of a relationship at this very moment.
Before we go on....check this one out:
Will He Ever Be Ready And Pick Me When He Is?
Sometimes we are in a situation in which having a relationship is not our priority. It could be because that we have just recently been out of a long-term relationship ourselves or we are having enough on our plate. You don't think those aren't good enough excuses but they are!
After my the split from my husband of 4.5 years, it took about 4 years for me to feel really right about entering a new relationship with both feet. I've been analyzing my own unreadiness and this is for the same reason why many guys are scared of commitment: the fear of being stuck in a dysfunctional or mediocre relationship in which you will keep plowing since you have invested much in it knowing it won't make much difference in the end after all.