Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Is He Just Not That Into You?

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Is He Just Not That Into You?

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Is He Just Not That Into You?

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Just Not That Into You?
Being In Love With An EUM Isn't Easy But There Are Ways To Beat Him At His Own Game

My ex wasn't ready when we first met. He displayed every sign of emotional unavailability in the book but he didn't want to lose me so he made us a couple 1.5 years after we met and married me a year later.

So anything is possible.

But what if he doesn't?

If you are a high-value woman, you won't worry about these things because:

  1. You won't invest more than he does.
  2. You won't make him a priority when you are only an option to him.
  3. You will still be dating around or accepting dates as long as he's not ready to commit or call you a girlfriend.
  4. You are so irresistibly secure that any man who has a chance to spend a good amount of time with you and find your company enjoyable will have a very hard time to let you go. He will at least respect you so much that he won't be so much less inclined to make a pastime out of you. You'll be the type of woman any man seeks for commitment because you understand men and their fears and validate them so they don't have to resist you in any way, shape or form.

Is There A Cure To Emotional Unavailabilty?

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Some people are truly emotionally unavailable. That means they can't be emotionally available to anyone, no matter how great he/she is. It might have been to do with childhood traumas or upbringing or there are some other psychological damages that cause them unable to connect with another person on a deeper level. This can be temporary or permanent.

If you have established that he is truly emotionally unavailable, it is up to you what to do. Can you accept him the way he is with the amount of intimacy and emotional expressions he's able to give you? Can you be contented with the little you have in terms of passion and affection? If not, it's time to move on to the greener pasture.

What Is A High-Value Woman And How To Become One So He Can't Resist Committing To You?

Am I Just Being Used For Sex?

The number one concern among women will be a relationship of convenience, i.e. a casual relationship in which she invests more than he does yet she feels she benefits less than he does, mainly because he has all the sex he wants and she gets very little in return in terms of security and commitment.

And to a woman security is everything, while to a man his freedom, independence and autonomy come first.

Let me tell you something, the more you are relaxed about sex, the more alluring you become. By that I'm not saying: be promiscuous or sleep with any man you date. And for sure relationship based on convenience does happen as I can personally attest but if you have faith in your own value as a woman that worry can be minimized.

For most guys, though sex is important they will rarely come back for more for an extended period of time (say more than a few encounters) unless they truly like you.

Why? It's just not worth it in the end since most know that nothing comes free in the end. The potential of drama and hurt feelings far surpass the benefits of having regular "easy" sex. And it's even more so if the woman constantly puts them on alert of the status of the relationship.

Most men understand there is virtually no NSA (no string attached) sex after a certain amount of time has passed. When she begins to show signs uf discomfort of the lack of clarity of the relationship, most men will quickly leave the scene unless they really like her. And if she has been somewhat a nag and yet he's still around, obviously he likes her more than just sex.

So while this notion isn't foolproof by any means, that should enable you to relax a bit about the notion of "being used" which is a phrase that only women with lack of self-esteem and self-confidence will use. A high-value woman feels secure and confident about her desirability simply on the virtue of that she has faith in herself, if nothing else.

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My book explains in detail what you can do to avoid relationship of convenience that will waste years of your (reproductive) life but in a nutshell:

1. As a woman, you should lean back which means you let him lead and put in efforts/invest in the relationship. When a woman rows the boat, she is creating a fertile ground for convenience relationship to flourish because many guys will gladly enjoy the ride when they don't have to extend any effort.

2. Mirror him. When he comes to you, you come to him. When he pulls away, you pull back too, even further sometimes.

3. Don't give/invest more than he does. The more you give or do things for him, the more you are invested in him and the relationship. Give him a chance to reciprocate and step up his game by leaning back. It doesn't mean you give to expect something in return. It means if he doesn't reciprocate you can at least judge his level of interest toward you. Men who are into a woman will do at least something from time to time to make her happy.

4. Don't stop dating others. The more focused you are toward one guy -with whom you have regular sex- the more you will be hormonally and emotionally hooked on him, the more vulnerable you become. I'm not saying you should have sex with every guy you date, but keeping your options open and your schedule full with social activities and other interested men will keep you grounded and sane throughout.

So ready to learn more? If you are currently dating an emotionally unavailable man and you feel vulnerable, please grab my book now and turn your love life around by being a high-value woman that men seek for commitment.

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