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3 Smart, Simple Strategies To Help Your Kid Stand UP To Bullies

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Compassion and kindness are the key.

I often say that all kindergartners need bullying. I know that you're shocked, but hear me out.

Bullying is not going to go away, it has always existed and always will. It doesn't just happen at school. It happens everywhere throughout your life, whether it be your boss, your spouse, your boyfriend/girlfriend, your coach, your friends, etc. 

Did you know that most bullying happens in your home?

Learning how to handle this should start at a young age. It's actually important for kids to deal with it before adolescence when you throw in alcohol, drugs, cars, weapons, etc.

The solution to bullying is quite simple — it's the Golden Rule. This means that the solution starts at home with morals and ethics and general compassion. Treat others how you want to be treated. Bullies to Buddies says to treat everyone that way even those that aren't good to you.

It's important for kids to know that they don't have to be friends with bullies, and in fact shouldn't be friends with anyone who isn't good to them. Even as adults we shouldn't do that. However, treating everyone with respect is still crucial.

Treat everyone like a friend, NOT like an enemy.

Love and Logic says to do these 3 things help your child deal with schoolyard bullies:

1. Learn what fuels the bullies at school.

Teach children that bullies get their power from our negative emotions. The more upset we get when picked on, the more powerful mean kids feel.

2. Remember the power of a calm attitude. 

Show your child how to trick bullies by showcasing a calm demeanor. If our children can learn to act calm when bullies hassle them, they become far less attractive targets.

3. Have a witty retort at the ready.

Teach your child to confuse or bewilder bullies by responding to verbal taunts with replies like, "Thanks for noticing" or "I appreciate the feedback."

For more detailed information about bullying go to Listen to Kary's radio show, Bullies to Buddies, on, or check out her website and Facebook


This article was originally published at Parent Talk with Kary. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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