Ever wonder why you continue to attract the wrong guy? Even though the last one seemed perfect at first, did you keep thinking to yourself, "When will 'Mr. Perfect' become 'Mr. Same Crap?'" For how long did you really think he was "Mr. Perfect?"
Chances are that you had an intuition about him from the very beginning, but you thought he was different because of some of the things he said or did to make you feel special. And if he did something that seemed not quite so special, you told yourself something to make it seem okay, didn't you? Whatever your justification for it, please realize that you were devaluing yourself, which is exactly the point of this article.
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The most important relationship you have in all the world is the one you have with yourself. When that relationship is strong and based on unconditional love, all other relationships will be relationships that you deserve, that will make your heart sing and will put a smile on your face. When you realize that you don't need anyone to make you feel happy or special because you are happy and you know that you are special, truly, then you will attract the kind of person who can be a deserving partner for you.
Jodi Picoult, wrote in The Tenth Circle, “What if love wasn't the act of finding what you were missing but the give-and-take that made you both match?” When people continue to find the wrong match, it isn't because something is missing, it is because they are looking for the wrong thing. They are looking outside of themselves for something that will fill them inside, yet that is an impossibility. Nothing outside of me can do what I can not do for myself. If I expect another to do something that I can't do, I will surely be sorely disappointed.
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Look inside of yourself and realize that you are truly all that you need. You are beautiful. You are kind and good enough and deserve to have all the joy and love you want. You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty and kindness. You deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated. And you deserve to accept nothing less. Honor yourself by treating yourself the way you would like to be treated, and value the person you are. Once you live that truth, you will bring to you those who will honor you and respect you. How cool is that?