A Widow Without Regrets

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A Widow Without Regrets
Do you have regrets about a breakup? Is it worth staying for the memories? Find out how to move on.

Today during spin class, I had a moment of clarity. I was sweating, my heart was pounding, the wheels on my bike were revolving, the endorphins were pumping, and I heard the words to Asaf Avidan’s – One Day/Reckoning Song.
“No more tears, my heart is dry
I don’t laugh and I don’t cry
I don’t think about you all the time
But when I do – I wonder why”
It’s clear that this is about a breakup. What’s interesting is that the remainder of the song are these simple lyrics:
“One day baby, we’ll be old
Oh baby, we’ll be old
And think of all the stories that we could have told”
Those lines are repeated at least a dozen times over and over again. The way he sings the final chorus is so intense that you can almost feel the pain from his loss. Asaf is stuck wondering why they broke up, and fantasizing about what experiences they could have had together.
I understand loss. My husband passed away, and I’ve mourned his loss everyday for the past 7 years. I have very few regrets. I no longer feel the pain that is expressed in this song. I had stories with my husband that I’ll never forget. I also have new stories that happen everyday. I make them happen! I don’t have regrets, because I don’t miss opportunities. When I became single, I experimented with dating, sex, companionship and being alone. I had some relationships that worked and some that didn’t. I chose not to continue in the ones that didn’t make me happy, even if they could have produced great stories. If you don’t laugh, you’re missing out. Everyone should be with someone who makes them happy. If you’re in a relationship that works, you’ll make those great memories. I have a new man who makes me laugh and we create new stories daily. What regrets will I have when I’m old? Probably not too many. For great information and videos on being single again, check out http://www.loveencore.com

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KarenLee Poter

Dating Coach

KarenLee Poter, author and host of LoveEncore - an intimate talk show 

https://www.youtube.com/user/karenleepoter

http://www.loveencore.com

Location: Northbrook, IL
Credentials: MSW
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