4. Give him the complete owner's manual. Like I said, you're the mechanic here, so share the tricks of the trade with the driver. If you want a back massage, suggest it. If you'd like him to lick your clitoris, tell him. If he's applying too much pressure or going too fast, let him know. If sex toys or blindfolds increase your excitement, pull them out. Don't be embarrassed to share fantasies or role-play. He won't know what turns you on unless you instruct him. Reinforce his actions by moaning, and showing him the road signs when he's on the right path. If he doesn't stop and ask for directions, give him your personal GPS. If you fake an orgasm, he'll continue driving poorly in the future.
5. Enjoy the ride, but don't lay back and slip into cruise control. Be an active participant. The average woman takes 20 to 40 minutes to achieve an orgasm. But if it takes too much time under the hood, your man may need jaw surgery. Your mind may drift outside the bedroom, and you'll need to guide it back to a sexual place. Rid yourself of inhibitions, touch yourself, and use toys while he's working his magic. When you're giving him oral sex, there's nothing wrong with guiding his fingers to your clitoris, breasts or anus. Don't be a back seat driver; jump into the front.
Achieving an orgasm with your partner is not a one-person responsibility. Your man wants to get optimal performance from your vehicle, but needs a little driver's education. You own a special-edition Porsche, but if you can't drive it, how can your man? Whether he's known you for years or he's an eager new driver, nothing will please him more than seeing your car roll to a roaring stop after an exhilarating road trip.