Ladies, it's time to take charge of your orgasm! Stop blaming your partner for not making it happen for you during sex. Think of your body as a high-performance vehicle that you're placing in the hands of a novice driver—your lover—each time you have sex. He wants you to reach the big O, but he needs some help operating your vehicle. You are responsible for guiding your man to becoming an expert driver. Follow these five steps to reach the climactic finish line:
1. Become your vehicle's expert mechanic. If you don't know what stimulates you, how can you expect your partner to figure it out? Do some self-discovery—masturbate. First, don't forget to lubricate your whole vaginal area; wetter is better. Using your fingers, try different tempos and pressure levels for reaching an orgasm. Play with your nipples and see how that adds to your experience. Read a sexy book and fantasize about anything that gets you revved up. Try a vibrator on your clitoris or inside your vagina.
2. Warm up your engines with foreplay. Men are wired differently than women. They can turn on their ignition switches and be raring to go within a few minutes. As a woman, you need to be mentally and physically in the mood before your engine starts humming. So gradually slip out of work or mommy mode and into the sex goddess groove. Start planning your evening by wearing sexy lingerie all day. Shift your mind into sex gear while cooking dinner by fantasizing about what he'll be doing to you later. Start a dialogue with flirty comments hours before the actual act. Text him a sexy picture or call him from another room, and both your motors will begin to purr.
3. Remember, the clitoris is the engine. Tell your partner that he needs to focus on your clitoris. There are many men out there who don't know its importance. Could a man ejaculate without his penis being touched? Of course not. The clitoris has about 8,000 nerve endings, which is four times the amount of endings in the head of a penis. If your man jumps into the driver's seat, puts the key into the ignition, and doesn't actually put the car into gear, that car isn't going anywhere. It's your responsibility to emphasize the importance of this essential car part. Keep reading...
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