Cougars Need To Be Cautious About Their Safety

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Cougars Need To Be Cautious About Their Safety
It’s easy for a "Cougar" to get a false sense of confidence about her safety. Be careful,avoid traps

On vacation in New York City, I met a guy in his late twenties at a swanky nightclub. After talking all night, and becoming slightly intoxicated (very drunk), he followed me into a taxi. I invited him into my hotel room, thinking we would just "make out.” He apparently had other plans, and grew very angry that I wouldn't have sex with him. He asked me point blank to have anal sex without a condom. On top of everything, he informed me that he was a semi-professional boxer.

In San Francisco, I went up to the rooftop of my hotel with a younger guy I had met in the lobby bar. He thought it would be fun to "look" at the pool. He decided to disrobe and jump into the water fully naked. He attempted to get me to take off my clothes and join him. When I resisted, he grabbed me and tried to throw me in. I managed to leave him skinny dipping alone.

In Miami, a thirty-five-year-old guy who I'd spoken to for an hour in a bar followed me to my hotel. He grew irate, when I told him he couldn't come inside. I ran up to the front desk, and warned them not to allow him access to my room. I had given him my phone number, and he called me for several days until I called the phone company to block him.

I met a younger man on a dating website who was living out of town. We communicated for months through emails, texts, and phone calls. We both were excited for our first actual meeting. He came directly off the plane to my house, and there was a strong mutual attraction. After spending the night, he promised to take me to dinner the following evening before he left. I never heard from him again.

A friend of mine sent a nude picture of herself to her younger boyfriend. When they broke up, he was angry and decided to punish her by posting it on his Facebook wall with the comment, “Whore.”

It’s easy for a "Cougar" to get a false sense of confidence about her safety, since she is older and “wiser” than her younger man. His expectations of easy sex based on his perception of “Cougars” may not be in sync with hers. “Cougars” didn’t text and have access to twenty-four-hour communication the first time they were single. There are many advantages to being a “Cougar,” but knowing the dangers of the “Cougar Kingdom” is imperative to her safety.

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