6. Cougars have to be able to handle the stigma of being a cougar. Mrs. Robinson didn't help the situation by perpetuating the myth of the younger man as the innocent victim of the perverted older woman. Demi Moore paved the way for the older woman/younger man marriage, yet there is still a long road ahead for society to be accepting of the relationship. Cougars need to be comfortable with judgmental people who make snide comments about them. It's sometimes difficult for children and parents of the couple to accept the unconventional nature of the relationship.
7. Cougars can have viable relationships with younger men. These relationships may begin as "friends with benefits," but grow into something much deeper. A large age gap places the couple in different stages of life, and complications are inevitable. For example: The younger man may want children and the older woman doesn't, or the established older woman may not want to put her life on hold while the younger man struggles with his career.
On the plus side, women tend to live longer then men, so it makes sense to be with a younger man to have the same life span. There's no denying the older woman/younger man obstacles are tough, but what relationship doesn't have issues to work through?
Bottom line: Cougars are strong, independent women who know what turns them on. If they are attracted to a younger man, and the affection is reciprocated, what's the harm? Age is a number and love has no boundaries.
Let's change the stigma of "Mrs. Robinson — aggressive predator of younger men" to "Cougar — assertive, self-sufficient partner of men who happen to be a few years her junior." Those are a few morsels of kitty chow from Cougar Coach, KarenLee Poter. I host an internet talk show: LoveEncore. For more sex, dating, and relationship advice, check out my website: LoveEncore.