7 Sexy Secrets About Cougars

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Plus: setting the sexist stereotypes straight!

Hello, my name is KarenLee and I am a cougar. It sounds like I belong in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, but I assure you that a cougar is not a person with an addiction to younger men. I'm also not referring to a wild animal found in the Andes. What is a cougar? I think of a cougar as a self-sufficient, confident, young-spirited woman who happens to like younger men.

Here's a little information about me. I'm a widow with three children. When my husband passed away, I was 48 years-old and had been married for 24 years. I had no clue what the singles world would be like, but after six months, I decided it was time to find out. I went to a bar and realized that the majority of guys who approached me were under the age of 35.

 

I soon found out this wasn't an anomaly; it happened every time. I didn't approach the guys — they hit on me! At first I laughed about it to my friends, but then I came to the realization that maybe this wasn't such a bad thing. I was still grieving from the loss of my husband, and not looking for a serious relationship.

The guys were smart, funny and upbeat. They had hair, straight teeth and were physically fit. They actively listened to me and genuinely enjoyed my company. This started my journey into the world of cougardom. After many dates with younger men and being in a four-year committed relationship with a man 15 years my junior, I feel that I have earned the title of "Cougar Coach."

Here are seven secrets to know about being a Cougar from Cougar Coach KarenLee:

1. Cougars take pride in their appearance. They exercise on a regular basis. Couch potatoes and cougars have only one thing in common: They both start with the letter C. Cougars wear sexy clothing and exude energy. They may have some stretch marks and a little extra padding, but they fight the gravitational pull of aging.

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KarenLee Poter

Dating Coach

KarenLee Poter, author and host of LoveEncore - an intimate talk show 

https://www.youtube.com/user/karenleepoter

http://www.loveencore.com

Location: Northbrook, IL
Credentials: MSW
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