In 2007 when I heard the words “Fortunately we don’t legally have to offer you maternity leave” I panicked.
This was my dream position for the next step in my career. My about to be new employer had just said those words to me after I discovered I was pregnant.
I saw a glimpse into my future as a working mom trying to advance her career. My work or my kids.
I was afraid of what I saw.
I knew with every inch of my being I did not want to feel in that position in my life.
I felt like I had hit the working mom glass ceiling even before becoming a mom.
As I shared in Part 1 of this article series “5 Signs You’ve Hit The Working Mom Glass Ceiling” it all ended well.
This experience provided me with the inspiration and courage to take the leap into my own business. Something I had wanted to do for years.
So what do you do if you find yourself pushed up against that working mom glass ceiling? Feeling like you have to choose over your kids or the next step in your career. Knowing something needs to shift or change to feel more fulfilled and happy in your work and life.
Step#1 Redefine Success
The first step is to reassess what success means to you now you are a mom. We often find our priorities change as we transition from working woman to working mom. We may try and fit back into the life we had pre-mom and realize that it no longer works for us. We can be left feeling unfulfilled, overwhelmed and stressed.
Our definition of success often changes as a mom. The first step before we start pushing at that glass ceiling is to get crystal clear on what success looks like for you now.
How have your priorities changed? In 50 years when you look back on your life what will make it feel the most successful?
It will look different for everyone. When you redefine how success has changed for you it provides the foundation to know exactly the pathway you would like to take as you breakthrough that glass ceiling.
Step#2 Own Your Value
As we transition from working woman to working mom many women experience feeling their value in the workplace has diminished. Now they desire to create more flexibility in their work schedule so they can pick their kids up from school sometimes they are no longer seen as valuable.
Don’t buy into this belief.
Even if you are given these message by being overlooked for a promotion or comments from colleagues know it is simply just that. Their own limiting belief. It does not mean it is the truth.
If you are struggling with this take time to reconnect with your value. The value you have to offer your family, your work, and the world. Remind yourself of your strengths. Own it and believe this as the truth, not what other may try to define it as.
Step #3 Create Your Breakthrough Vision
Once you have redefined success and reconnected with your value you have the foundation to create a vision on how you would like to breakthrough the working mom glass ceiling.