I recently watched a video on YouTube and realized it was a perfect way to illustrate a resource I’ve been wanting to share with my readers. The video features two self-made multimillionaires asking self-help guru and motivational speaker Tony Robbins why some people follow through while others don’t.
Robbins points out to the two men (John Reese and Frank Kern) that asking yourself two questions can help you identify where you are and where you’re going, which will crystallize your understanding of where you currently stand. The guru says that asking "What excites me?" and "What pisses me off?" can be tremendously effective in helping you determine what you do and do not want out of your current situation.
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Further, Robbins explains that while some people get where they intend to be, those who don’t usually fail for reasons other than a lack of resources or ability. Rather, they fail to follow through because they’re not "afraid enough" of not reaching their full potential, don’t have a driving hunger to success, or haven't given themselves permission to get out of their comfort zones. He points out that when your back is against the wall, you're more likely to do whatever it takes to prove yourself and succeed.
Robbins then shares his "4-square" system (belief, potential, action, results) as well as how these elements are vital to momentum. He notes that we all begin from a place where our beliefs about our potential is strong, which determines the actions we take and fuels the results we will achieve. In essence, your results reinforce your beliefs; therefore, changing your beliefs will change your view of your potential rather than changing your potential or taking further action. Going the distance, or following through, encourages you to visualize what you want, know why you desire it, and follow through.
To put the 4-square system to work for you, follow these steps.
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Prepare Your 4 Squares Fold a blank sheet of paper into four squares, labelling each (beginning in the top left corner) as "potential," "action," "results," and "belief." (When you identify where you want to go and why, you'll come back to this.)
Visualize Your Results Turn the paper over and think of the blank page as your choosing the life you desire. Question where you want to be in life at a particular point in time, whether it be two weeks, two months, or two years. Then close your eyes and visualize your results so that you "see" them before you attain them. Once you connect yourself to the feeling that you're where you should be and doing what you should be doing, anchor that feeling. This is your "why."