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I recently watched a video on YouTube and realized it was a perfect way to illustrate a resource I’ve been wanting to share with my readers. The video features two self-made multimillionaires asking self-help guru and motivational speaker Tony Robbins why some people follow through while others don’t.

Robbins points out to the two men (John Reese and Frank Kern) that asking yourself two questions can help you identify where you are and where you’re going, which will crystallize your understanding of where you currently stand. The guru says that asking "What excites me?" and "What pisses me off?" can be tremendously effective in helping you determine what you do and do not want out of your current situation.

Further, Robbins explains that while some people get where they intend to be, those who don’t usually fail for reasons other than a lack of resources or ability. Rather, they fail to follow through because they’re not "afraid enough" of not reaching their full potential, don’t have a driving hunger to success, or haven't given themselves permission to get out of their comfort zones. He points out that when your back is against the wall, you're more likely to do whatever it takes to prove yourself and succeed.

Robbins then shares his "4-square" system (belief, potential, action, results) as well as how these elements are vital to momentum. He notes that we all begin from a place where our beliefs about our potential is strong, which determines the actions we take and fuels the results we will achieve. In essence, your results reinforce your beliefs; therefore, changing your beliefs will change your view of your potential rather than changing your potential or taking further action. Going the distance, or following through, encourages you to visualize what you want, know why you desire it, and follow through.

To put the 4-square system to work for you, follow these steps.

Prepare Your 4 Squares  Fold a blank sheet of paper into four squares, labelling each (beginning in the top left corner) as "potential," "action," "results," and "belief." (When you identify where you want to go and why, you'll come back to this.)

Visualize Your Results  Turn the paper over and think of the blank page as your choosing the life you desire. Question where you want to be in life at a particular point in time, whether it be two weeks, two months, or two years. Then close your eyes and visualize your results so that you "see" them before you attain them. Once you connect yourself to the feeling that you're where you should be and doing what you should be doing, anchor that feeling. This is your "why."

Write Down Your "Why": For instance, you might record on paper, "I want to achieve ___ results because it will validate ___." Don’t be surprised if you find yourself using terms like "purpose" or "life calling" when you form your "why." Further, finding your "why" might mean asking yourself things like "What’s in it for me if I do ___? What if I don’t do ___? Is the 'why' strong enough to keep me going? Am I tapping into my full potential? Is this something to which I'm willing to completely commit?"

Going the Distance: It's imperative that you act with certainty and confidence. If it’s a "must" for you, you owe it to yourself to make it work and achieve your goal; as such, you need to connect again with your beliefs to ensure they'll get you where you want to go.

Revisit Your 4 Squares: Write down the results you're striving to achieve, and then work backward to consider what action you need to take to achieve these results. What do you need to believe about yourself and your innate potential to make it a reality?

Secure a Mentor: Author Cynthia Kersey notes that research from Rockefeller University has shown that a mere 10% of people successfully realize their desired changes on their own; as such, she recommends putting into place an accountability structure to increase your chances of success.

Finally, Robbins talks in the video about implementing daily rituals that provide you with momentum while creating an attitude of confidence that you’re going to accomplish one specific thing a day. This will condition your mind to be in a state of follow through regarding your desired results. After all, progress motivates people and gets them excited.

Until next time, embrace your inner wisdom.

Namaste,
Karen

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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