As you progress through life, your actions and decisions impact these two accounts depending on (1) whether or not you decide to live with integrity and (2) whether or not you continue to mature and develop your self-confidence. If your decisions support your integrity, your account balance stays put; if not, then a withdrawal occurs. To make a deposit into your integrity account entails a lot more work. You need to restore your integrity, and that takes time. As well, your actions and judgements affect your self-confidence, but your self-confidence is also affected by your reactions to how others respond to your decisions.
How you react to decisions in everyday circumstances and during emergencies can be entirely different. Confidence is what enables you to make sound judgments in times of crisis. The more confident you are, the better the decisions you will make when you find yourself in an elevated level of stress.
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The good news is that you possess the tools needed to make judgements effectively and increase your confidence. As such, here are three steps you can take today to improve your self-confidence.
Step 1: Name the emotion initially triggered as soon as you are in a heightened stress state. For example, say you are in the office and somebody else takes credit for a task you finished. What did you feel? Was it doubt? Worry? Rage? Disappointment? No matter what it is, simply acknowledge it. Don't judge yourself for feeling it. That's what we do as human beings; we feel! So go ahead and experience the emotion being triggered. By feeling the emotion, your self-confidence is raised due to having newfound knowledge ... and knowledge is empowering!
Step 2: Step up your emotion. If you are feeling rage, then look to raise your emotion to anger; if you feel doubt, then elevate your emotion to disappointment; if it's worry, then move up your emotion to doubt. The secret is to elevate your emotion so that you can begin to notice a new perspective on the circumstance. With a new perspective, you are open to boosting your confidence regardless of how anyone else responds to the situation. Everything You Need To Know About Stress
Step 3: Execute! There are two parts to this step. First, you must execute the inferior emotion and elevate the inferior emotion. Then you must take action or execute the step(s) necessary to reinforce your self-confidence. Take at least one step to resolve the situation that is triggering your stress. Going back to our illustration of someone taking the credit for your job well done, a good action might be to approach the person who got the recognition and congratulate her on her victory while making sure to give yourself a pat on the back for taking the high road.
Out of self-confidence grows assurance and resilience. With every stride you take, the greater your resilience grows.
To your success!
Coach Karen K
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Life Coach and Business Coach Karen Kleinwort is the founder Therapy in Transition and is a Certified Professional Coach specializing in the integration of her clients' mind, body and spirit into her Personal Empowerment Coaching practice. For more information, visit www.coachkarenk.com. www.therapyintransition.org or contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.