Nice guys. You believe you’re different from other men. You’re not just after sex like the other guys. You care, really you do.
And it shows. You listen. You do sweet things. You go out of your way to demonstrate it’s more than sex you want.
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But in the end it’s sex you want, and, what’s frustrating is you don’t get much. You get relegated to the “friends” category a lot.
Nice guys do finish last and not because they’re nice. It’s because they are acting as if they’re not really men.
Somewhere along the line men got the idea that if they could just squeak by as “not really men,” they’d get more women to trust them and more sex.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because women do want men. And they happen to be sexually attracted to men who act like men and feel like men.
Granted, women have been hurt by men and don’t like men who are only after sex, but they are still attracted to men, nonetheless.
When you pretend to not be sexually interested, she can’t feel you as a man. She can’t feel a sexual attraction. Your sex has gone under the radar.
Know that a woman wants to be sexually desired. And, as long as you’re clear and upfront and don’t hide your sexual intent, she’ll trust you. You don’t have to seem sexless to gain her trust.
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It’s pretending you’re not interested in sex, or that you just want to be her friend that breeds mistrust. Be expressive of how you desire her and are turned on by her, and also that you enjoy and “get” who she is. This is a winning formula!