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Here’s an idea for a gift that is sure to melt his heart

You may not realize it, but more than anything, that special man in your life wants to feel like you appreciate, respect, and accept him for who he is as a man. With that he’ll feel understood and understanding is–at least for him–the ultimate gift you can give him.
Here’s an idea for a gift that is sure to melt his heart. You can put as much effort into it as you like. He won’t get all mushy and teary eyed, but he will appreciate what you will be telling him with this gift.


For married women:
He wants to make you happy, to be a good provider, and be your rock, so letting him know all the ways he’s accomplishing that is a better gift than anything else you can give him.

This will be a true Care Package, like he’s never had before. Men aren’t “into” gifts like women are but this is a gift he’ll treasure because he’ll know that you really do understand what makes him tick. The benefit to you is it costs hardly anything and he just might transform into that romantic, starry-eyed prince that you fell in love with.


For single women:
If you’re single and wish to do something that will make your boyfriend feel like, “Hey, this is an amazing woman that I’d be a fool to lose,” you’ll want to give him this gift. No other woman will have given him anything like this before. Guaranteed!


For moms with kids:
If you have kids, this is a project you can do together (mostly) that will show your love and appreciation. And the kids will see their dad in a new light and love and respect him all the more.
Materials you’ll need:
Writing instrument – pen, pencil or colored markers
Paper – plain, fancy or colored
Magazines
Container – choose a box or a basket, tube, stocking, coffee mug, tool box, fishing tackle box, etc. Be creative and use something that he’ll enjoy later.
You can get nice paper and make lists, you can use poster board and write on them with colored markets, or you can use poster board and cut out images and words from magazines to make a collage.

The six gifts of understanding:
1) Make a list of all the qualities that you most admire about him. Examples: He’s honest, hard-working, helpful, intelligent, handsome, etc.
Men sometimes feel like they’re just a wallet, someone to take out the trash, or the one who kills spiders. This gift will let him know that you see who he really is and that he’s an important part of your life.

2) Make a list of the masculine things about him that you like best. Examples: He’s strong, he makes you feel protected, he’s a great lover, he’s intelligent, his big strong arms, etc.

Everything a man does points back to what kind of MAN he is. Your guy is no different. Men can be a lot of work to have around, but there are things about men that even our best girlfriends can’t offer. What is it about your guy that causes you to see him as the “man” you wanted to share your life with?

3) Make a list of all the ways you nag him and at the bottom, promise to quit doing so. (The kids can skip this one, unless they’re older and have gotten in the habit of just seeing dad as a source of money or transporation.)

In poll after poll men have said what they like least about women is nagging and complaining. Partly because it tells him constantly that he’s falling short of being a good man for you. He “needs” to make you happy and solve your problems so if when you do these things, you’re telling him he’s failing you as a man.

It also is really unattractive and, let’s face it, if you’re not attractive to him, he loses interest. Besides, if you nag and complain enough, he sees you as a bottomless pit that can’t ever be satisfied and he gets worn out and either leaves emotionally (into the paper, TV, work, other women or drugs and alcohol) or physically in divorce. The irony is that we all know that nagging and complaining doesn’t work.

4) Make a list of all the things he does for you that make you happy. Examples: He brings home a paycheck, he takes you out to the movies, he helps with the dishes, he picks up the kids after school, he buys you flowers, he’s an attentive lover, he gives great hugs, etc.

Men are actually driven to make women happy. It has to do with the primal drive to be a good hunter. Providing meat was the most important thing he did because it meant his family would survive a little longer. Talk about putting a smile on his “woman’s” face. Well, men admit that, more than anything, they feel fulfilled as men when their woman is happy. It means they’re doing a good job of being “the man.”

5) Make a list of the reasons you respect him. Examples: He’s a good provider, he’s a good father, he’s honest, he’s admired by others, etc.

Men need to feel like they’re measuring up to other men. Respect is the most important measure of a man. Yes, a man could be rich and powerful but if he’s not respected, it’s meaningless.

6) Make some “naughty” coupons that he can redeem whenever he wants. (Obviously, this is not for the kids.) Examples: This coupon is good for a Saturday night seduction; this coupon good for a little whipped cream to be licked off very slowly; this coupon good for a slow, sensuous massage; etc.

For most men, the only way they know how to be intimate is sexually. When you first fell in love you probably kissed for hours and couldn’t get enough of each other. Well, why not spark him up and let him know you’d like to enjoy the “pleasure” of his company.

Note: When you make your lists be sure and include those things that you know he likes and admires about himself. And if you want to get really creative, include examples of why you put each item on your lists. As a follow-up to the written lists, some verbal appreciation would be a perfect way to “tie a bow” on his Ultimate Gift.
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From my heart to yours,

 Kara Oh

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