If you’ve been together for a while, those “in love sparkles” can disappear. Sometimes they just ebb
If you’ve been together for a while, those “in love sparkles” can disappear. Sometimes they just ebb and flow, coming and going mysteriously.
When they’re gone, things just don’t feel as good as they used to.
Often, we’re not very aware of why things don’t feel quite right, you wonder if your relationship is over, and hope that somehow, the love will return.
We don’t know why it went away and we don’t know why it comes back.
But what if you could help keep the feelings of being ‘in love’ alive? Quite often a man or woman contacts me, worried because their partner has announced they’re no longer ‘in love.’
Too often it’s assumed this means the relationship or marriage is over, and often it is, because they’ve let things go too far.
But if they had known what they could have done along the way to keep the ‘in love sparkles’ alive, they very well might not have gotten to the point of no return.
So, here are three things that can help a couple bring back the ‘in love sparkles:’
Start having fun again.
Start having more sex by kissing for 10 second at least once a day.
Speak up, in a loving way, instead of allowing resentment to build up.
1 – Start Having Fun Again
Remember when you first fell in love? Weren’t you having fun doing pretty much anything? And didn’t you make a point to create activities and time together so you could have fun together? Didn’t you laugh and do silly things because you felt so youthful?
Well, think back; what did you do then that you can plan now? Make things happen because they’re aren’t going to happen on their own.
2 – Share 10 Second Kisses
You can’t get aroused if you allow a kiss to go at least ten seconds. If you kiss for ten seconds as you part in the morning, you’ll both be thinking about each other in new and spicy ways.
If you share ten second kisses when you meet at the end of the day, you might end up in the bedroom for a spontaneous romp. And if you kiss for ten seconds when you’re in bed, it’s amazing how often you will no longer be too tired to have sex.
3 – Speak Up and Avoid Resentment, the Love Killer
This is a bit tricky if you’ve both been holding back and allowing resentment to build up, maybe over many years. In my Marriage Makeover Manual there are three Communication Techniques that I teach so couples can safely talk about the little and sometimes big things that have been swept under the rug.
The biggest problem with resentment is it causes us to begin to develop loathing toward our partner, and who wants to be touched by someone you loath?
That’s why I call resentment the killer of love. And the strange thing is, we do it to ourselves by not speaking up when they do or say things that usually start out as small irritations.
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