How to Be Happy After It Is Over

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How to Be Happy After It Is Over

When it feels like your heart is going to break because your relationship is over, or you feel lonely and afraid you will never find love or happiness, here’s some advice that will help you develop the ‘habit of being happy’. To do so will be better for you, but another benefit is that you will be more attractive to every man you meet when you’re happy.

I think one of the things that has helped me develop the habit of being happy the most is to develop rapport with trust. As I’ve learned to trust that “everything that is happening is supposed to be happening, or it wouldn’t be happening,” and trust “everything will unfold in it’s own time, in own way,” and that “it’s all perfect,” I’ve gotten better and better at not letting the disappointments get me down.

This is counter to how most people live. What I’ve observed from coaching people over the years is that, more often than not, most people focus on what they don’t have, or wanting things to happen “NOW,” or trying to force things to happen and when they fail to do so, they stress about it.

In a way, what you think about most of the time is actually felt at a cellular level, whether it’s happiness, sadness, negativity, or anger. What I mean is, your entire body is triggered by your thoughts. It’s your thoughts that make you feel bad and keep you stuck in the negative thinking loop. And if you stay in a particular frame of mind, your body begins to take on the ‘feelings’ associated with that thinking. Thus, it becomes your natural state of being.

So you must change your body at that same cellular level. To do that, do a twenty minute meditation every day, preferably twice a day, and focus on the mantra below. But you have to feel it in your body for it to create the changes I’m talking about. It will take some time, but it does work if you are willing to do it. If you think you don’t have the time, then think about how much time you waste thinking about the things that upset you and make you sad. And, if you aren’t willing to do this, it means one of two things: 1) you don’t really want to change, 2) you don’t love yourself enough to know you deserve to be happy.

Here is the mantra for you to think about as you meditate:

•I trust everything that is happening is supposed to be happening, or it wouldn’t be happening.
•I trust everything will unfold in it’s own time, in own way.
•I trust that it’s all perfect.
Here’s the MP3 meditation that you can download into your MP3 player: Download here.

Use the one where I guide you, then, once you get comfortable relaxing in this way, you can use just the music.

From my heart to yours,
Kara Oh

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