Can a woman who has had a mastectomy feel feminine without her breasts?
Angelina Jolie has been a big news item in the past few days. And rightfully so. To have both breasts removed, and next, her ovaries, is not the usual way we hear of women doing things to prevent cancer.
But before I talk about what it means as a woman, let me say that her case is fairly unusual "because more than 99% of women do not have BRCA1 -- or BRCA2, for that matter."
So hopefully, women will not begin to think this is something they should do to prevent breast cancer. Without the presence of BRCA1, the best prevention for all disease is to eat well (and I mean EXTREMELY well), exercise regularly, avoid stress, and be happy.
Now I want to talk about the self-image and emotional perspective of what Angelina Jolie has brought to the forefront of thinking. Can a woman who has had her breasts removed still feel like a woman?
I have two friends who have had double mastectomies. One for the very same reason Ms. Jolie did it, and the other because she had cancer. So this is a topic that is near and dear because I care about these women and they've confided in me about what it's meant to them.
Feminine Grace happens on the inside and then shows up as an outer glow that can only come from loving oneself. Without that, it doesn't matter what a woman looks like. We've all seen beautiful women who are obviously insecure. It shows in their posture, their eyes, and the inability to relax, be themselves, and shine with happiness.
We don't know for sure, but it seems fairly obvious that Angelina Jolie is a woman who knows who she is, is confident and comfortable in her own skin. And knowing a bit about her childhood, I suspect she's done a bit of self-reflection. Her breasts are not how she identifies her "womanness." It's more about who she is and how she is in the world.
My heart work during my time on this planet is to help women realize that their happiness and their ability to give and receive love are directly proportional to their depth of self-love. It's about how beautiful you feel on the inside, not what others see on the outside.
To facilitate self-love in women is the very reason I teach "The Five Facets Of Feminine Grace." Without self-love, life cannot be lived as fully as you would like.
When you love yourself, truly and deeply, without self-doubt, life becomes a glorious adventure.
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