You're tired. You're stressed. You're strapped for cash. Outside, it keeps getting colder and colder, and darker and darker. And all around, those freakin' Christmas carols just won't stop!
Yep, it's the holidays, and this year they crept up on us even more quickly than usual, what with the late Thanksgiving and the early Hanukkah. During this time, it can be easy to get caught up in the cold, the dark, and the hype — and hard to connect to the light, the warmth, and, frankly, the sexiness.
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Here are 5 ways to connect with your body and stay jazzed, merry and all sexed up through New Year's.
1. Walk in a winter wonderland.
Exercise is the best medicine for so many things, but it's especially good if you're cold, low-energy, stressed out, or depressed. You don't have to go to a Crossfit class or climb a mountain. Just bundle up and take a stroll in the bracing cold. Watch the steam of your breath, and listen to the quiet. If you have someone to walk with, so much the better — especially if you can hold hands.
2. Be creatively generous.
It doesn't take much effort to push buttons on Amazon Prime and have random stuff sent to relatives you never see. But it doesn't feed your soul much, either. Gift-giving can be extremely fulfilling, and activates reward centers in the brain if you put some thought into it. Take care of your holiday obligations, whatever they may be. But take some time to pick out something wonderful for someone you love. The thrill of giving just the right thing and watching their face light up is a great way to juice up your own system.
3. Practice gratitude.
Being thankful has numerous proven rewards, and can reconnect you with the things that make you tick. Try this: spend a few minutes each day writing down something you're thankful for. If it's a person, go tell that person how much you appreciate them, and specifically why. If it's a part of yourself, tell yourself! Whatever it is, send a breath of love and thankfulness to it, and meditate on it for a few minutes. Appreciation is one of the main keys to happiness.
4. Go to your stupid office party.
There tend to be so many parties around the holidays that it's hard to decide whether to hit them all, strike strategically, or just skip every one of them and hide under the covers instead. But social gatherings are a big part of what gets us through this long, dark season. So go ahead: dress up in something fancy (and a little bit sexy!). Put on some lipstick or sparkly jewelry, or wear those cufflinks you never get to put on. Get a little tipsy with your officemates, or eat too many Christmas cookies. Share some laughter, comfort and joy, and then bring the warmth home with you to bed.
5. Be a kid again.
Winter has its perks, and among them are things that you can only do in the snow and ice. Have a snowball fight with your kids, or your friends' kids. Go ice skating with a loved one or a friend, and fall down a lot. Make a snow angel. Not only are all of these things good exercise, but they can connect us with our inner kid — you know, the one that loved snow because it made them miss school, instead of hating it because it makes us have to shovel. Increase the amount of play in your life and enjoy finding out what it does for the other kind of play in your life.
If you're having a hard time finding your own joy this holiday season, contact me for a free phone consultation.
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