Speaking of vulnerability, light restraint can also add to the experience of giving up control. Again you don’t need any special items to use, a scarf or silk tie (if you’re REALLY into the book, find a special grey silk tie!) even a thin leather belt can be used to take it up a notch. When you start introducing restraint into your sex life be sure to take it in small stages so that everyone feels comfortable. You can always raise the intensity next time!
These can be the first simple steps to exploring your newly inspired kinky curiosity and will give you both you and your lover an opportunity to ease into these kinds of new experiences. Regardless, make sure you have a chance to talk about what the new explorations felt like.
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With the economy the way it is and many people scrambling to keep their heads above water, it can be easy to let our erotic connections end up on the bottom of the to-do list. But having a happy sex life can improve your quality of life overall. So here are 5 simple tips to keeping your erotic motor revving and your sex life hot.
I know it can be hard with hectic comings and goings, but take a few minutes before you leave in the morning and when you get home in the evening to great each other with a kiss, a look into each other’s eyes to take a moment to see each other as lovers. This simple act can strengthen your relationship even among the chaos.
Schedule a date time. If you can make it out of the house, great! Go to the movies and sneak some make-out time in the back of the theatre. Find a restaurant that uses long table covers and play footsies underneath. Sit close to each other and eat your food sensually and share the pleasure of each other’s company. If you can get out of the house, find a way to have quiet time together and stroke each other’s skin sensually. No matter who’s in the room you can appreciate the feeling of each other’s bodies
Use index cards to spur sexy time! When either one of you gets an idea for something sexy to do together, jot it down on a card and keep the cards in a special place (you can hide it if you’re worried about prying eyes!). Then, when you do have time share some pleasure you can grab a card to give you an inspiring start!
Did you know a kitchen timer can be a sex toy?! With the go, go, go nature of life these days there doesn’t seem to be 5 extra minutes in the day. But there is, you just have to fit it in. Grab your kitchen timer and set it for 5 minutes. Now kiss like you mean it! Have a hot and heavy quickie with your lips pressed together and your bodies touching and then when the timer goes off, go back to whatever you were doing. It’s a very fun game!
Leave sexy voice messages for each other. During the work day sneak off to some place private and leave a tantalizing suggestion of what you’d like to do to your lover. It doesn’t have to be a long message, just something to let them know you’re having hot thoughts about them.
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So don’t think you have to sacrifice your love life because of a busy schedule! Make it priority and you’ll find the sexual tension building and sex moving up on your to-do list.