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Today's modern couples have fully integrated sites like Facebook, Twitter and YouTube into their relationship.
In fact, social media is an integral part of the dating ritual, the engagement stage, and everyday married life. Unfortunately, it is also a factor in relationship breakups, the open sharing that "it's complicated," and the public announcement of a separation or divorce.
Social media connects us with anyone at anytime to do anything anywhere with anybody. From the countless stories we've heard from broken-hearted spouses and scorned lovers, most every relationship that was negatively affected by social media-related issues occurred because the couple never discussed their online guard rails or virtual boundaries to protect their relationship.
"The Techlationship Talk" is five basic questions every dating, engaged and married couple should discuss to make sure their virtual activities and technology habits don't create problems in their real-time relationship. (To help the conversation go a little deeper, we've offered some additional scenarios to consider.)
Is Anybody Not Acceptable? Are there real life associations that shouldn't be a Facebook Friend, Twitter Follower or other online connection: people who are a negative influence; certain family members; exes of any type (including boyfriends/girlfriends, ex-spouses, crushes); co-workers, employees or clients; people not known in real life; current or past porn stars? (Since "Weinergate," this last one is now officially on the table for discussion).
Is Anytime Off Limits? Mobile technology and free wi-fi makes access to social media sites easy, anytime and anywhere. But is that a good thing? How much time online is too much time? Is it possible to log on too early in the morning or too late at night? What is an acceptable amount of time to be using social media each day?
- Is Anywhere Out of Bounds? Social media allows people to communicate in a variety of private and public ways. But just because it's possible, does it make it acceptable? What about private correspondences through chatting, inbox posts, or direct messaging? Is it OK to send private messages to any online friend, or should these forms of online communication be reserved for certain people? Are there any Groups, forums, private or semi-private online gatherings that are problematic?