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3 Online Dating Resolutions You're Likely to Keep

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3 Online Dating Resolutions You're Likely to Keep
If finding love is on your list, how can you stand out in the crowded digital playing field?

You start out the New Year with good intentions. You create a resolutions list after a disappointing New Year's Eve alone.  You decide it's time to make finding love a priority and make a commitment to sign up for an online dating site. 

As good as your intentions are, like many resolutions, after a few weeks it moves down on your list of daily activities. I'm here to let you know that now is the time for you to revisit online dating and more specifically, create a new irresistible online dating profile.

Why should this stay on the top of your list? Forget the holiday pressures and red candy hearts. The period from New Year's through Valentine's Day is when singles will either join an online dating site for the first time, or renew their memberships. Just like refreshing your Facebook profile with new photos and new updates, you need to keep your online dating profile robust and intriguing, instead of the stagnant profile you once had.

Here are some easy-to-follow and keep New Year's resolutions for singles looking for love online:

1. Reach out and reconnect. Did you get too busy during the year and miss out on meeting someone you started to communicate with online? Take a look in your Inbox and see if they still have an active online dating profile. Reach out and send an email with a simple, “Happy New Year.” If their profile is still online, assume they haven’t met “the one” yet. It may be a time for a new beginning for both of you.

2. Narrow down your search. Do your friends complain that you are too picky? Have they stopped fixing you up? There’s nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want in a relationship. Remember, no one really gets it all. We compromise on certain things and decide what our deal-breakers are. Make a list of what is most important to you. Number it from 1-10. Now, focus on the first 3 items on your list. Is it religion or hiking? Strolling through museums? Put those key words in your search. You might be delighted to see who appears on your screen.

3. Refresh your profile. If you are satisfied with the online dating profile you currently have, change the order of your sentences or add something new and exciting that you're looking forward to doing. Perhaps it's an upcoming vacation or seeing one of your favorite bands in concert. As a result,  your profile will become refreshed and chances are you will show up higher in a search.

If you need some extra handholding, I will work with you privately to create an irresistible online dating profile, complete with a catchy screen name so you can stand out in the crowded digital playing field. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com for more details or contact me at CyberDatingExpert.com/contact

Let's make this year the one you really find the love you are looking for.

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Julie Spira

Dating Coach, Relationship Coach

Julie Spira is a bestselling author, dating advice columnist and coach, radio show host, and online dating expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and is host of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Show. Julie is frequently quoted in the news for her expertise on online dating and relationships including The New York Times, ABC News, BBC, CBS News, Cosmo Radio, E! Entertainment, ELLE, FOX News, Galtime, Glamour, iVillage, Los Angeles Times, Men's Health, Psychology Today, WIRED and Woman's Day. Her dating advice has appeared on Date Daily, eHarmony, JDate, Match, and Zoosk. Visit Cyber-Dating Expert.com and share your online dating stories. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and Like Julie on Facebook.

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