50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex

Is Your Relationship Like Congress? 6 Ways toBreak The Deadlock!


Is Your Relationship Like Congress?  6 Ways toBreak The Deadlock!
Learn what you (and Congress) can do to break the deadlock in in your relationships. It can be done!

Now that the elections are behind us and we are looking forward to the New Year, we patiently wait with anticipation on how Congress will conduct itself in the coming term. As you know, relations between the parties have been at its all-time low. Bickering, threats of filibusters and outright contention have permeated the chambers.

In my book “The Pathway to Love” I talk about the four phases of a developing relationship. Relationships pretty much work the same regardless of whether they consist of two people or two parties in a political system. The same challenges exist as two life forces try to work together and move through the phases of a developing relationship.

More from YourTango: 5 Signs Your Marriage is At Risk

Congress is definitely stuck in phase two. It is easy to get caught up in needing to win, needing to be right, and becoming paralyzed in deadlock. You may relate, feeling that no matter what you try, you simply can’t find a way for you and your significant other to see things from the same perspective, or at the very least, find a way to resolve your differences that results in a workable solution. You find yourself arguing about the same thing over and over again. You find yourself strategizing on how you can get your other “party” to understand the importance of your position and act accordingly. And finally, when all else fails, you become resigned, wondering if this relationship can survive or even if it even should.  Sound familiar?  Well, I can tell you that the Democrats and Republicans are feeling the same way. We Americans are feeling the same way. And we’re tired and worn out and in need of change.

More from YourTango: Watch Out! You are in Phase One!

In honor of all relationships—yours, our Congress’, and our international community—I offer some thoughts on how to break the deadlock.  I don’t know if I can affect world peace but I will impart what I know about relationship dynamics and creating connection out of contempt.

You, your loved ones, and Members of Congress need to

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Julie Orlov


Julie Orlov, MAOL, MSW, LCSW
Relationship Builder

Speaker, Psychotherapist, Coach and Author of The Pathway to Love:
Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery
jorlov@julieorlov.com www.julieorlov.com

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Linked-In


Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
Credentials: LCSW, MSW, Other
Other Articles/News by Julie Orlov:

5 Signs Your Marriage is At Risk


You and your spouse just had another fight about money. You have argued about money for years, never agreeing on spending and saving habits. This time, the fight turned uglier than usual. There was a lot of name calling and threats of divorce. You both have had it. You just don't believe you will ever see eye to eye and are burned out. At this point, you ... Read more

Watch Out! You are in Phase One!


I see it over and over again. You meet someone. You are attracted. You are excited about this new person. You finally have sex and feel even more excited about what this relationship holds. You tell your friends and co-workers you have just met someone fantastic and think this could be the one.  And while these feelings and thoughts are completely normal ... Read more

Bring Your A-Game to Valentine's Day


Usually, I'm a bit of a scrooge when it comes to V-day. I reject the commercialism and pressure that this holiday puts on couples and singles alike. I encourage people to simply enjoy a day that celebrates love without caving in to the pressures to buy expensive flowers or go to expensive restaurants. For some reason, this year I feel differently.  I ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts

Emotional Vampires: Skills for Dealing with the Narcissist

Expert, Margaret Jacobson shares insights gained from Albert Bernstein's, book Emotional Vampires


One-liners Guaranteed to Turn Up the Heat

Want some off the hook sex tonight? Use words as foreplay!

Make A Move

Forgiveness : The Most Important "F-Word".

Forgive so that the past no longer holds you back. It is time to move forward.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>