When It Comes To Blind Dates, Throw Out Your "Check-Off" List

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When It Comes To Blind Dates, Throw Out Your "Check-Off" List
Most everyone looking for love has a check off list. The best thing you can do is to throw yours out


4. Attraction (of any kind) can grow with time. Ultimately, you want a relationship that has both sexual attraction and relationship attraction.


5. Remember, relationships provide mirrors for what we need to see and understand about ourselves. It is within the context of relationships that we can grow, heal, and thrive.


So next time you go on that first blind date, throw away your check off list. Be open to learning about who this person is over time. Give yourself the opportunity to have a new experience that is not run by your past. Allow yourself to be surprised. Being open can bring unexpected and wonderful people into your life.


Be well,
Julie


Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery


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