We all know what it feels like to feel hurt, betrayed, or abandoned. We learn these painful lessons early in life and continue to feel our wounds reopen every now and then as we move through adulthood. Being vulnerable requires risk. There is no way to experience profound love and intimacy without risking your heart. Sometimes the risk pays off and sometimes it doesn’t. So the question is not if we’ll ever have a broken heart, the question is when. It’s simply a part of life.
But please don’t despair. There is good news. There are gifts that come with a broken heart. And there are ways to trust again. Let’s take a look at what the broken heart can teach us.
A broken heart knows that…
• It will heal
• It is resilient and expands with each breath we take
• You had the courage to be vulnerable
• The person you were with was not the right person for you to be with at this point in time
• You will understand why that was so and will make better choices next time
• You will seek out support from family, friends, and others, reminding yourself that there are people in your life that you love and who love you back
• The right love is waiting for you and that this loss was simply a way to help you prepare for that love
• The risk is worth it and the heart is better for having taken it
• All of life is a risk—there are no winners or losers, only players
• It has a boundless ability to give and receive love, no matter what
Your heart holds the truth. Remember to listen and honor what it knows. Be good to your heart. Be good to yourself. Play all out. Life is simply too short.
Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery