Top 5 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

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Does your man make these classic, bedroom errors?

3. Treating her clitoris like a penis. A woman's body is different from that of a man. Don't try to treat her genitals like you treat your own. Find out what kinds of touch feel best. Take your time so she does not feel rushed. Don't move on to intercourse too quickly.

Most women enjoy orgasms via clitoral stimulation before vaginal penetration. Of course, that does not mean a woman can't enjoy another orgasm during intercourse — but remember, every woman is different — some have vaginal orgasms and some don't.

 

4. Beginning and ending foreplay as quickly as possible in the bedroom. Foreplay goes on 24/7 for a woman. The more attentive you are to her overall needs, the more connected she feels. The more connected she feels, the more responsive she will be to sexual advances.

So if your mate is tired from a long day and you are in the mood for sex, run a nice hot bath for her, put the kids to bed and I promise, that tired "leave me alone" mood will shift. Nurturing your woman is the best aphrodisiac you can find. Be a great partner to your mate and your mate will be a great lover in return.

5. Doing sex "your way." Most men take the lead in sexual encounters. And for some, even when a woman does take the initiative to do sex differently (her way), she is redirected to how he wants it. Sometimes this can be a match and sometimes it is not. Don't assume just because you saw a woman moan on a porn site that this is what your woman will enjoy.

Women don't want to feel like they have to look and act like porn stars. They may love what you love and they may prefer something different. Women tend to have their own preferences on how they like to have sex. Make sure you find out what pleases your mate.

Let her run the show from time to time. Make sure her needs are being met. Create a safe space from which to try different things and create an intimate connection. Hot sex, tender sex and anything in-between is all great sex when it comes from a place of love and intimacy.

If you or someone you know is struggling with creating a strong and intimate relationship, please reach out and contact me. I am here to provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don't need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and powerful relationships.

And don't forget to catch me LIVE every Friday at 2:30pm PT on Pathways to Love w’ Julie Orlov on www.latalklive.com/new/pathways-to-love. Call in with your questions and comments at 323-247-7443!

P.S. Don't forget to join me for my LIVE Create Your Pathway to Love Workshop on February 23, 9am-1pm in Hermosa Beach, California. For more information and to register, go to www.yourpathwaytolove.eventbrite.com.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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