Ten Commandments on Relationships

By Julie Orlov. Posted on Sep 29th 2012.

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You will always be a work in progress. Be willing to admit your mistakes and learn from them. Be willing to forgive others for theirs.

Tell people what you want and need. Don’t expect anyone to be a mind reader. Learn how to communicate in a way that is clear, direct, and kind.

Everyone has their own perspective on things. Don’t expect everyone to agree with yours. Be willing to accept others’ perspectives as being true for them.

Being human means you will feel happy, sad, hurt, scared, lonely, angry, excited, content, bored, etc. Emotions flow along with the changing circumstances of your life. Get comfortable with all your emotions. When you do, you will not feel compelled to find ways to deny, repress, suppress, mask, and project them onto others. I promise, no one ever died from having an emotion. They are what enable you to create intimate relationships with others.

Your relationships are the most important assets you have in your life. Act accordingly.

The time has come for us to get back to each other and back to community. Take the time to learn how. I offer many ways from which to get started. Get ready to assess your relationship, transform your relationship at home, thrive with expert coaching, or ask Julie a question.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out. I am committed to your success.

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