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My New Year’s Wish for You…


Set powerful intentions for what's truly important when it comes to your relationships and your life

Now that the holidays have come to a close and the stress of navigating shopping malls and grocery stores is complete (well, almost complete), I’d like to offer you my New Year’s wish for you. Some of you had a wonderful holiday celebration with friends and family. Some of you struggled with the stress and demands that come with the holidays. And some of you tried to ignore them altogether and get through a very lonely time of year. Regardless of which group you fall into, this week is the time when everything settles down and what’s really important comes into focus. It isn’t about what gifts you gave or received or how many pounds you gained or lost or even what historical-religious event you celebrated (or not). You know what is truly important. So here’s my New Year’s wish for you. Please accept this gift as a loving reminder of what we all truly want for the coming year.

I wish you…

Health and Healing – it’s amazing how quickly priorities come into focus when our health is at risk and if you are dealing with a health issue, please give yourself the gift of putting yourself first and doing all you can to heal and repair. If a loved one is dealing with a health issue, give them permission and encouragement to do the same.

Peaceful Relations – it’s amazing how quickly we can feel anxious and unsettled when we feel disconnected with someone we care for due to an argument, disagreement or misunderstanding. If you feel disconnected with anyone in your life, give yourself the gift of peace and love. Correct any misunderstandings, forgive when forgiveness is called for, and find a way to transform conflict into greater understanding, acceptance, and love.

The Joy of Making a Difference – it’s amazing how easy it is to feel sorry for oneself when something is missing or going wrong in our lives. Give yourself the gift of joy by helping someone in greater need. There is always someone who has it worse than you. Reach out and lend a helping hand. You will be astounded at how it will change your life.

Being at Peace with What Is – it’s amazing how much time and energy we spend on resisting what is and trying to control what is not. Give yourself the gift of surrender and acceptance. When you let go and accept what is, a sense of well-being ensues. The struggle ends and openings for new possibilities emerge. This is your moment—this is where your power and aliveness lives.

Lastly, I want to express my gratitude to everyone who has joined me on my journey helping people create loving and intimate relationships. I have enjoyed hearing from those of you that have communicated with me by phone, email, Facebook, the radio show, Twitter, and this blog. I love hearing from you and responding to your comments and questions. Please continue to reach out.

I also want to thank all of you for supporting my work and taking the steps to make a difference in your relationships. Each person who makes the effort to learn the tools to create strong and intimate relationships demonstrates and role models that pathway for others. It has a ripple effect. Your commitment and dedication towards healthy and loving relationships makes a difference not only for you and your loved ones but for those around you. Keep up the good work.

And for those of you that find this time of year disappointing, difficult, or lonely, please feel free to contact me. I am here to help. You don’t need to struggle alone. This may be just the right time to heal past wounds and create something new. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and powerful relationships.

Happy New Year Everyone!

Be well,


P.S. Don’t forget to take advantage of December’s Gold Package Bonus – an extra hour of coaching in addition to The Pathway to Love program and one hour of personal coaching with me!

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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