Keep the Stuffing in the Turkey and Out of Your Family Gathering

By Julie Orlov. Posted on Nov 20th 2012.

Understand what causes holiday angst & anxiety. Learn what to do during your next family gathering.

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Conclude that you just don’t like the posturing that takes place during family gatherings. The day feels contrived and inauthentic as people compete for attention and power. The remedy: You don’t have to play the game. Instead, find ways to bring authenticity to the day—play a game of Taboo, bring out old family photos and share memories, or focus on young children and pets (they can’t help but be authentic).

Worry about eating too much, drinking too much, and talking too much. The remedy: Take antacids as needed, drink lots of water before you go to bed, and apologize for any misspoken words before the next family gathering occurs. Or I guess you could monitor you actions and eat, drink, and speak responsibly… but let’s be real—after all, it is Thanksgiving!

If you or someone you know struggles with the holidays, please don’t hesitate to contact me. Holidays can be of time of joy or a time of sorrow, depending on your specific circumstances. You don’t need to struggle alone. This may be just the right time to heal past wounds and create something new. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and powerful relationships.

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Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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