Affection Is Key To Keeping Love Alive

By Julie Orlov. Posted on Dec 12th 2011.

older couple — Take some advice from The Beatles. Turn to your partner and say "I wanna hold your hand!"

Kiss your partner. Hug them. Squeeze them. Affection matters.

Maybe it’s a matter of which came first, the chicken or the egg, but there is a clear correlation between emotional disconnect and physical disconnect with couples. It is also clear that relationships in trouble need to attend to both. For those of you who are just starting out or who want to keep the positive momentum alive, here’s what I suggest.

Make affectionate gestures a priority. Give your mate a hug, kiss, or squeeze every day. Make time to cuddle before going to sleep. Hold hands, walk arm in arm, remember what it felt like to be in the courtship phase, creating romance and connection. I promise that you will feel better about your mate, your relationship, and yourself. Honestly, affection is the best cure for disconnect. It reminds you why you fell in love in the first place. 5 Ways to Keep Love Alive

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Be Well,
Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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