As I rule, I try to resist the pressure to write articles with holiday themes. It just feels a bit cliché and there are so many of them running rampant out there in cyberspace. Sometimes I feel the spirit that lies within our holidays gets lost within the onslaught of messages.
However, today I awoke with a thought about our upcoming Independence Day holiday. For me, this holiday represents a day to enjoy friends and family, along with BBQ's and fireworks. And to be honest, I focus more on the Wimbledon Tennis matches and less on what it means for our country. At this point in time, I feel the spirit from which our country was founded has become lost. We have less integrity, less freedom, and less authentic interactions with one another. Greed, instant gratification, and “more is better” seem to have taken hold. I know many, if not most of you, adhere to different standards but these current values have been ingrained into our culture and our relationships, at a tremendous cost to us all.
With the intention of helping bring our old values back—or as some may suggest, new and improved values—I am offering a new set of declarations for this coming Thursday, July Fourth. In so doing, my hope is that we will remember on our national holiday what is truly important. So, among the masses of Happy Fourth of July wishes, I encourage you to declare a new state of independence in the following ways.
I declare the freedom to
Be who I am without apology or repression
Be fully self-expressed
Be free from fear of rejection or abandonment
Be fully empowered to say yes or no without guilt or regret
Love and treat others with a compassionate and open heart
Take risks with courage and live a life of passion
Take full responsibility for my actions, thoughts, and feelings
Live my life with integrity and learn from my mistakes
Do what I can to make someone else's day a bit better
Laugh whenever possible, smile as much as possible, and find joy wherever possible
Have a wonderful and safe Fourth of July celebration!
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