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Declare a New State of Independence for Yourself

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Declare a new state of independence this 4th of July. Here are 10 ways to be truly free!

As I rule, I try to resist the pressure to write articles with holiday themes. It just feels a bit cliché and there are so many of them running rampant out there in cyberspace. Sometimes I feel the spirit that lies within our holidays gets lost within the onslaught of messages.

However, today I awoke with a thought about our upcoming Independence Day holiday. For me, this holiday represents a day to enjoy friends and family, along with BBQ's and fireworks. And to be honest, I focus more on the Wimbledon Tennis matches and less on what it means for our country.  At this point in time, I feel the spirit from which our country was founded has become lost. We have less integrity, less freedom, and less authentic interactions with one another.  Greed, instant gratification, and “more is better” seem to have taken hold. I know many, if not most of you, adhere to different standards but these current values have been ingrained into our culture and our relationships, at a tremendous cost to us all.

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With the intention of helping bring our old values back—or as some may suggest, new and improved values—I  am offering a new set of declarations for this coming Thursday, July Fourth.  In so doing, my hope is that we will remember on our national holiday what is truly important. So, among the masses of Happy Fourth of July wishes, I encourage you to declare a new state of independence in the following ways.

I declare the freedom to

  1. Be who I am without apology or repression
  2. Be fully self-expressed
  3. Be free from fear of rejection or abandonment
  4. Be fully empowered to say yes or no without guilt or regret
  5. Love and treat others with a compassionate and open heart
  6. Take risks with courage and live a life of passion
  7. Take full responsibility for my actions, thoughts, and feelings
  8. Live my life with integrity and learn from my mistakes
  9. Do what I can to make someone else's day a bit better
  10. Laugh whenever possible, smile as much as possible, and find joy wherever possible

Have a wonderful and safe Fourth of July celebration!

If you or someone you know is struggling with creating strong and loving relationships, please don't hesitate to contact me. I am here to provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

As always, I’m here to support you in creating a transformational life and strong and powerful relationships.

Be well,

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Julie

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