And then we all get to practice asking for what really matters to us. My husband, Gil is kinda like John, in that it rarely occurs to him to open a car door for me and he "forgets" to walk on the street side of the sidewalk. Little things like that, which make me feel not so special -- so I practice letting him know how important those things are to ME, reminding him and asking for what I need and want. And then I have to remember to notice and appreciate the little things that he does do for me that are HIS little ways of showing me he cares, like the egg white omelet he just brought to me... and the rose garden he created for me outside my office window.
Dump the guy because of his manners, or lack of manners? I'd say...not so quick. Rather, keep wrestling with is the expectation element. Women tend to have higher standards than men do about manners, and it's likely that most of the men we date will fall short on one area or more. So then we get to decide if it's an issue that's manageable, fixable or worth dumping him for...
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Finding a suitable and compatible partner in some ways becomes more and more difficult as we age, because we get so firmly entrenched in the way we want and expect things to be. It's natural, so just catch yourself before you jump to a quick conculsion as to whether a particular gentleman is acceptable or not. Give him the benefit of the doubt and play with your own communication so you can find ways of asking for what you want from a man in a way that boosts him up and makes him want to provide this touch of class for you.
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And then when he DOES do that sweet little thing that tickles your feminine spirit, let him know...and he'll do it again... and again... Men really do want to make us happy, and if we help them learn what makes us happy, we give them a chance to win with us. That puffs him up and gives him more confidence, which serves us -- as we love confidence in a man. So it's a positive cycle that feeds upon itself.