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What if you HATE Valentine's Day?

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What if you HATE Valentine's Day?
When you're not in love, nothing's more disgusting than red hearts, flowers and sappy greeting cards

When you're in love, the Valentine's season is just perfect. All those red hearts, the roses and the sickeningly sweet commercial messages seem to be written just for you.

And when you're not in love, and you so wish you were -- all that red and Pink just feels like a heavy, thick, syrupy wet blanket.  Yes?

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Here's how to embrace Valentine's Day when your love life is just not happening at the moment....

Give, Give, Give. Stop by that sickening sweet Hallmark store or pop online http://www.hallmark.com/  or visit my personal favorite, http://www.papyrusonline.com/ and pick five really special cards that just capture who you are and how you feel about love and life. 

Make a list of all of the magnificent people in your personal world who bring a smile to your face. Pick your favorite five and send a card to each one of them.  Especially if it's someone who will be completely surprised and delighted to receive that card. Favor those who you think aren't likely to receive anything special in the mail this Valentine's Season.

Better yet?  Pick up the phone. Today. Right now. Call someone who matters to you, who really matters to you, who's made your life just a wee bit brighter, and say "I Love You!"

The act of loving makes us more loveable. It's that Law of Attraction thing we keep hearing about. The more love you want and aspire to have in your life, the more you'll want to practice being loving and showing love. When we give love, it always, always comes back to us tenfold. I promise. 

One of my favorite clients http://www.CupidsCoach.com called me this morning to let me know that he really enjoyed the three dates he had with a woman we introduced to him. They had both decided that it was best meant to be a friendship, rather than a romance, and he sent her a Valentine card, to let her know how happy he is to have her as a friend. He said it felt great to send that card.

I was driving down an unfamiliar city street in Chicago recently, on a Sunday evening during a really cold, nasty ice storm, and I was blown away by the sight of a homeless man, underdressed, his bare hands holding his cup out, shivering but with a big huge smile on his face. He greeted the drivers as they passed by, belting out a warm "God Bless You" to each driver who passed him, whether they noticed him or not, whether they stopped to give to him or not. It was my pleasure to reach into my wallet to find a crisp $20 bill to share with him. I took off my glove to shake his hand, to wish him well, and it made his day, which made my day, and I will carry his warm, loving spirit with me into my life's journey. 

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When we come from a place of giving and loving, everything is brighter and life's little joys just seem to pop up in the most awe-inspiring ways. 

Love on, folks, each and every day, and watch what happens. Give lots of love to unexpencing people this next week, and write back to me to let me know what happens.

 

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