Is Matchmaking Right for Me?

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Is Matchmaking Right for Me?
Matchmaking could be just right for you, or not. Find out if you should make the investment.

Could hiring a personal matchmaker be the shortcut to the relationship of your dreams? Let's find out if you're a good candidate and make sure you're asking the right questions before making the move to find a dating coach

1. Do you value your precious free time more than you do your dough? There's no guarantee that hiring a matchmaker will deliver your knight in shining armour, so you need to be willing to part with some significant dollars (thousands, not hundreds) in order to engage a matchmaker. If your hours are more precious to you than your money, and if you'd like to avoid wasting those hours sifting through online dating profiles and/or scouring meet-up groups, then matchmaking might be an option—but ask yourself:

2. Do you want to limit the rejection factor? Online dating and singles events are FULL of disappointment and rejection. The guy you're intrigued with doesn't respond to you, doesn't email you, flirts with the other chick at the event—this is the every day, every moment reality of online dating and singles events. And yes, this kind of rejection takes a toll on your confidence, which is the very element that men find attractive in a woman. Hiring a matchmaker cuts to the chase. The matchmaker does the pre-qualifying and targeted outreach for you to put you on first dates with men who are vetted for you and are jazzed to meet you. Matchmaking might be a good fit for you, but here's another question:

3. Does your community HAVE a well respected, seasoned, successful matchmaker available to hire? Do your research online to find one who has been operating successfully in your city for at least five years. A matchmaker who serves BOTH men and women (so many these days take on only male clients, leaving us girls to sit on the sidelines waiting for a call that usually never comes—YUCK!) Don't even think about hiring a matchmaker who has less than 3,000 full vetted candidates available for referral. Make sure the matchmaker reveals the fee structure and avoid the ones that offer a discount for signing on that day—it's an important decision that you should consider carefully. Does the matchmaker scout, recruit and constantly build the date-a-base? Most matchmakers will only introduce you to another current client, which is the lazy way to do matchmaking. Look for the matchmaker who has been in business for years—long enough to build a huge, monster, delicious community of men who are at her fingertips for referral. Does the matchmaker provide ongoing dating coaching and feedback after each and every introduction? Most don't, sadly, and all really good matchmakers should happily provide this type of client support.  Keep reading...

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Julie Ferman

Dating Coach

Julie Ferman, Founder

www.JulieFerman.com

Awarded Best Matchmaker: 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010 by iDate and Online Personals Watch

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Management, Matchmaking
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